Suffering is inevitable.
You can either own your suffering or let it exist on its own.
The meme in the thumbnail created by Ramin Nazer illustrates this point.
A fit man working out is suffering, but to achieve something. A fat man is doing nothing, but to achieve nothing. Both are suffering, but one chooses to own his suffering.
Why it Matters
Many men and women allow outside circumstances to determine their attitude and success. It's like a little kid saying "they made me do it!".
No, nobody "made you" do anything. Nobody expect you.
You reacted and that was your choice. If your reaction is doing nothing, that is still a choice.
Regardless of your choice, you'll suffer. So why not choose the suffering that'll make you better?